lost my dad, looking to connect with people my age (20s)

Discussion in 'Loss of a Parent' started by *Sarah*, Jul 3, 2020.

  1. *Sarah*

    *Sarah* New Member

    New member, here. I lost my dad suddenly in December 2019. I'm hoping to connect with people around my age (20s) who are dealing with a sudden loss and/or the death of a parent to chat and exchange resources and ideas.
     
  2. Jazz08

    Jazz08 New Member

    Hi,

    I am also a new member. I lost my dad unexpectedly in November 2019 and have been struggling with it. How have you been doing with it?
     
  3. Bella416

    Bella416 New Member

    Hey,
    New member here as well; hoping to connect and communicate with others who have experienced similar situations of parent loss at a younger age, and to discuss the varied parts of evolving grief experiences about general parent/family loss, but also with those who had complicated parent-child relationships which has affected their grieving process
     
  4. KristenS

    KristenS Member

    Hi guys, I'm not in my 20s but I was last year. I lost my father to lung cancer after a fast and gresome 5 week decline. He passed Sept 12th 2019. Been diagnosed with PTSD. Angry all the time without cause - its always beneath the surface. Struggling... looking for connection and understanding. Others around me think I should be better because it's almost been a year. I'm an only child and had a very close and loving relationship with my dad.
     
  5. BrittanyCall

    BrittanyCall New Member

    I’m a new member here and have also lost my dad unexpectedly, I found him and started CPR but was to late. He passed March 29, 20. I had a very close relationship with my dad and it hurts to try and continue each day. Anything helps to try and get through the pain
     
  6. KristenS

    KristenS Member

    Oh Brittany. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Your loss is fresh and recent and I can only imagine how awful that was. I want to tell you a few things though. Reach out to people if you can, ask for help, keep eating.. Self care - these were the worst days for me and I did not take care of my body. Those first few months were the worst for me. Just know, I'm a daughter who was close with her father and today I have more good days than I do bad. Keep going. Journal. And just know that whatever you're feeling is normal and you're not going crazy - dont let others try to tell you how long or in what way you should grieve. Keep reaching out on websites like this. I had a dream last night that my father was alive, but when I woke up and saw your post, my focus shifted. Helping others helps yourself-when you are ready..
     
  7. KristenS

    KristenS Member

    Also Brittany- I dont know if I posted my last post as a reply but if not just scroll down. If you want to talk one on one I'd be glad to listen - just knowing there is someone else who has been as confused, hurt and shocked to the core can really help. You're not alone!
     
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  8. BrittanyCall

    BrittanyCall New Member

    Thank you so much! The first 2 months I barely ate., I still barely eat to this day but it’s getting better and better. Everyday tho I still wish he was here. Thanks so much for reading my story. ❤️
     
  9. JacobPospy

    JacobPospy New Member

    New member, lost my dad on June 13th suddenly and I’m sad but I’m having the worst time showing any kind of emotion or being able to tell people how I feel. A big part of my life is just suddenly gone and now I have to figure out how to live on.
     
  10. KristenS

    KristenS Member

    Hello,
    I can imagine that you're in shock still.. I was numb for a few months after... trying to power through. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Its difficult to show emotion when that means you have to feel it. Hang in there and keep posting..
     
  11. I'm slightly (only technically) outside the 20s age bracket, I just turned 31 this month, but I'm about to lose my dad after a year and a half long battle with metastatic mesothelioma and it is the worst pain. If anyone above ever wants to talk my inbox is open.