**LIVE** EVENT! Questions & Answers

Thank you to everyone who viewed or participated in tonight's event! We will leave this thread open for any general questions you may have, specifically those things you would like to ask of a facilitator. Thanks for being here!

 

When people come to a support group I always ask the same question: what brought you here tonight? When looking for support a lot of grievers have that one question...."is it weird that I still talk to my husband?", OR "is anyone else finding the grocery store an especially sad place to be?" OR, "how do I handle friends who don't seem to know what to say?". These questions are the cornerstone of why support - and support from fellow grievers - matters.
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I think what you're describing is an emotion that so many grievers can relate to. Feeling isolated and alone, even when surrounded by loved ones who care and are trying to help. We talk a lot on this site about the importance of being with fellow grievers, as they are the ones who are most likely to understand what you're going through. But don't give up on your friends and family as in the long run they will be the ones on the grief journey with you the longest. Educate them as best you can - communicate and try and help them understand what you need and don't need right now. There is no timeline, and what it means to "get past" it will be different for everyone. Grief is about adjustment and change, and for a change as big and unwanted as the loss of a love one - the adjustment takes time. Just be sure you're doing it on the timeline that works for you.

 

Our forums are a wonderful place to share, but what really sets us apart is the opportunity to connect individually. If you haven't already, go to "Make a Connection" and then "Find Others Who Are Grieving". There you can search for others, based on the criteria that is important to you.
Keep the search general to start - perhaps searching by "Circumstances of your loss" or "Who Have you Lost". Including too much criteria could narrow the search. Once you find a list of people, you can view their profile. Click on "Information" to find out more about them, and there you can "Start a Conversation" which will send a private message that will be sent to their private email (notifications should be received in their regular email's inbox). Give it a try!

 

Hi Mindee, I am so sorry for your losses. It just never seems quite fair when one person has to deal with so much. And yet I hear stories from grievers all the time, who are coping with multiple losses and the feeling of being overwhelmed trying to deal with it all is very much to be expected. I believe there is help to be found in others going through it, and I'm so glad you have found our site. As the administrator of this site and for every member here I can tell you- we are here for you, and you are not alone. I believe in the strength of a shared group like this and I truly believe you will benefit from being here. Please take care~

 

Hi Julien, Good question! It could be the quiet, and solitude of driving that brings in the thoughts. It could be the places you're driving by, and the triggers that come with that. Hard to say, but most grievers will find that something they do or someplace they go will always bring on tears in a surprising way. Knowing these triggers can help and being prepared (even if it's just to know, okay I'm driving now and the tears are going to come) can help in the long term. You don't have to fight it, that's an important thing to remember. Let the grief comes when it needs to, and know that being alone in the car is where you feel safe to grieve! So maybe it's just what you need (even if it doesn't always feel like it). Thanks for being here - I hope you can find some comfort and support here.
Please take care~