Hi, I just found this group so this is my first post. My sister passed 5 years ago in a tragic car accident. I learned of her accident/death on Facebook which was devastating. How can my brother just write a facebook post and not call.? I grieved for a long time and it wasn't until the last year that I felt like I was healing, at least until October. I got a phone call that my nephew, her oldest son, was in ICU for drug overdose. I drove overnight to get to him but didn't make it in time. I was just 2 hours away when he passed. After the initial shock, I have felt extreme guilt for letting my sister down. I should have called him more, I should have known he was struggling, I should have been there! I was back home only 3 days before we got the call that mother-in-law was deteriorating fast and we lost her the following day. Suddenly, the loss of my mother-in-law, loss of my sister, the loss of her son, and the guilt I felt for letting my sister down was more than I could bare. So, here I am. Just trying to process so I can begin to heal.