Mimi2, I talked to counselor about a year ago. When she asked questions I answered. Some words were almost impossible to say on my lips. She could see how intense my emotions were and just gave me the time to eventually get those words out of my mouth. God, loss is so amazingly horrid.
I started seeing a counselor a couple of weeks ago . While she is fantastic , she can only help me deal with the grief. She can't take it away. I'm the only one who can do that. What I don't understand is why, after almost 5 years, I' m still feeling as if the loss was yesterday.
I knew she was doing her best to help me, but honestly they can't do it for you, you have to do it for yourself. I actually wonder how long this plight will be. My brothers wife passed away on this day two years ago to this day, this is her:
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When I talked with my brother two days ago I could sense how slower his words were. Then he just blurted it out that he was missing Joyce. You see, I was the best man at their wedding (great honor my brother gave me). When I was going to the Univ of Maine, Nadine and I lived with them for a year till we were able to afford an apartment a year later.
I joined the Jaycees with him, got introduced to all his friends and workmates. We played poker together. Ask businesses for donations for special events. Held Halloween parties and all sorts of things. In short, both my brother and his wife welcomed us into their house and were so giving. It was a special time.
So I know he is hurting like me, and I just wish I could reach out and make it better for him. Life sure can he awfully hard at times.
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