My dad passed away very unexpectedly in April just a few days after my birthday. I was out of the country when it happened and had to fly home. For awhile I thought if I’d have been there I could have helped somehow. But it was just so unexpected. For some reason I felt fine though. I didn’t cry much after I found out or even at the funeral. I thought maybe something was wrong with me. Now it’s all hitting me. I can’t sleep or eat and I just think about him all the time. And I can’t stop crying. It was just so unexpected and I feel like I’m reacting oddly
I’m reacting the same way. My brother died June 1st. I’ve come to understand that how you’re reacting is completely normal. I also to have had sleep troubles and eating troubles. I see a counselor and she reminds me all the time that this is all part of the process. A process it takes time. Thinking about him and crying is extremely healthy. That’s how you’re healing.
I can understand how you feel. I lost my partner of 9 years suddenly 5 months ago and I'm finding that I struggled a lot during the first few weeks but then I started to feel like I was coping just a little bit. Now that normality has started to set in I'm suddenly finding it more difficult again. I get upset more often now than i did a few months ago and I'm having to try and keep myself busy all the time even though I don't really feel like doing the things I enjoyed as solo activities before.
