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I’m in shock

Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by Toniwest1976, Jun 2, 2021.

  1. Toniwest1976

    Toniwest1976 New Member

    My husband passed away March 4 2021. He had melanoma with metastasis. This Friday will be 3 months. Sometimes I think it feels like forever on the other hand it’s only been 3 months how am I going to go the rest of my life with out him. We meant in highschool and have been together since. When he passed it was less than a month from his 50 th birthday. I feel robbed of my future. He’s going to miss so much. His kids wedding his grandchildren. I just cant bare the pain
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  2. Ladyjane

    Ladyjane Member

    Hi and welcome. 3 months is such a short time but too you it probably feels so long. It's my hubbys 7 months anniversary today and I've gotta say it's been rough. Like u I think about all the things they missing out on. The unfairness of it is heart wrenching. Wish I had words of comfort but pop on here when u need too and at least u won't feel so alone
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  3. Dee Kay

    Dee Kay Active Member

    Sorry for your loss, 3 months is still very raw and numbing. I was with my husband for 28 years, he passed at 54 years of age. I am still asking myself how I will live the rest of my life without him. But in the meantime I find that I am actually doing that, day by day, week by week. And that is shocking that I've actually made it just past the one year mark when I didn't see how I would be able to do that. My heart aches and I do still cry and talk to my husband every day but somehow I have managed to keep going. And you will also. The pain is great, I can't sugar coat that and this is really hard what we all are going through. This site and another one helped me see that I am not alone (even though I have felt the most alone I have ever felt this past year) and that others are going through the same thing I'm going through. My heart goes out to you, I know how hard this is.
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  4. Mary0128

    Mary0128 Well-Known Member

    So sorry for your loss. My Jeff passed 1/28/18, not only was the love of my life gone but also our future I had pictured in my mind. The loss is great and overwhelming. I feel your pain. At times I still think, "oh I cant wait to show this to Jeff", then the reality hits me. This site is really helpful. you are not alone.
  5. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Can't find the words to express how sorry I am for your loss... My husband and I were together for 35 years. He passed away on April 11, 2021, exactly three weeks after his 67th birthday. He was diagnosed with kidney cancer November, 2015. Although I had lots of time to think about what life would be like without him, there was absolutely no way I could have prepared myself for this overwhelming sadness... I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I know this doesn't help, but I think I understand how you feel...
  6. susan beaulieu

    susan beaulieu Active Member

    the same thing happens to me..i was gathering his things despite my children objections....bc why should i have to live with the pain of seeing them everyday..i thought..oh scott will be mad if i throw old these old shoes.id better leave them..and then i remembered
    or looking for something important i actually said out loud" ill ask your father" or i think...i cant wait to tell scott that so & so called......then i quickly remember and im sobered.....i suppose we all do that
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