How do you go on

Discussion in 'Grief in Common Updates, Questions & Answers' started by Gran, Apr 24, 2019.

  1. Gran

    Gran Member

    My life has stopped, every day life goes on. I'm expected to do the same . Outside world doesn't understand.
     
  2. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Hi Gran, I think you speak for so many. It's so hard when it feels like our world has stopped, and changed...and it's so unrecognizable, and yet everything and everyone around us seems to go on like nothing has changed at all. It's a terribly isolating feeling and the reason I think so many come here for connection. I'm glad you have found our site and I hope we can be a help to you~
     
  3. Gran

    Gran Member

    Thank you
     
  4. Danny67

    Danny67 New Member

    Hi Gran,
    I think I understand and I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's a life changing event; I lost my wife of 23 years in October of '18. She was my best friend, my soulmate, my everything. I feel absolutely "stuck" and can't seem to get past all of the pain. For all practical purposes my life is on hold and like you said, life goes on but I can't seem to do the same. My daughter has tried to help me get over the grief but it just isn't happening for me, yet. In truth, and at this point, I can't say that I care as it just no longer seems worth the effort.
    I hope you've been able to make some progress on your personal journey through this h*ll. Take care. All my best, Danny.
     
  5. Deborah Clark

    Deborah Clark Member

    I know how you feel. I lost my husband on June 5th and I feel like I'm stuck on the day he passed. I too don't know how to go on, but I know in time we will learn to live our lives without them. It's just so hard in the beginning and we miss them so much. Time heals but we will never forget them and they will always be in our hearts. I'm still suffering and it hurt but some days are better than others
     
  6. Danny67

    Danny67 New Member

    Oh Deborah, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can honestly say that I know how tough it is. In my own case my wife and I had planned on me leaving her and not the other way around. On several levels everything has been turned upside down for me. I'm still searching for the strength to continue on. Some days I have it, others I don't.
    In my own interpretation, time heals most wounds . . .
    Be well, Danny.
     
  7. Gran

    Gran Member

     
  8. Gran

    Gran Member

    It is very hard , I'm learning grief is a personal journey. What works for one person may not hold true for the next, but I do know that it will get better. A very dear friend of mine recently talked to me about my loved one , he knew us both very well . He reminded me of how much I was loved and made a point to ask me if he was here would he want this way of life for me . That was kind of a turning point for me . I know he would not want this for me , he would want me to live a full life. I know it's hard and I hope things get better for you .
     
  9. Deborah Clark

    Deborah Clark Member

    I'm sorry fo
    My husband left all of a sudden neither one of expected him to leave me when he did. I like you have better days then I hit rock bottom and that's when things get tough. If I would have know this was going to happen when it did I might have been better prepared but I wasn't. Everyday I wish he was here. He was a good man and had a lot of life left in him. It's been really hard since he was the one that brought in the income. Now that he's not here I struggle not having it.