Barry,
So Sorry Barry about feeling the pain for Peg. None of us can promise how long it will take for the grief for Peg to ease over time. When we lose our sweetheart, a piece of heart has been torn from us, and washed away with time.
We might spend so much time trying to come to terms with our loss. What I have found from my own loss of Nadine is we each are so unique, we each value the loss strongly and may search for answers on why and how we face the future.
I just know we each lost one of the most important persons in our life. Our sorrow is strong and seems so unforgiven at times. I wish we all could not lose ourselves as we grieve. Tears are unending and so very meaningful.
Barry I am not sure how you met Peg, but Nadine wrote to me in Vietnam along with 34 other girls. I eventually realized she was just someone I needed to know better for she could reach my inner feelings.
I will never regret that choice I made in life to ask her to marry me. Besides her dad and two brothers were huge lumberjacks and I did not want to make them mad at me. I am so happy I made the right choice in life, as I am sure you did as well.
We made so many plans as a young couple, just like you were waiting for the day till you could spend so much time with Peg. Alas, for both of us, it was not to be. But I will forever hold within me all the memories she gave me for the rest of my life.
Barry please never give up, Peg would not have wanted you to, she loved you intensely. When I am troubled I think of so many memories we shared in life, sure I feel melancholy, but it touches me deeply, as I am sure it would for you as well.
I know this isolation has taken our support systems away. In these troubled times we need to find other ways to reach out for our own peace of mind.
Personally, I still connect with former service members, I talk with my siblings often, and I talk with others here on the forums. Barry, your feelings will take time and an effort. Life is so worth the effort.
Those 25 years you speak of must have had so many memorable moments in life, you just need to remember and throw caution to the wind and allow yourself to feel those strong emotions you have made from life with Peg.
Please keep connecting. Please never give in despair and take care of yourself. I know you are wounded, so natural. But your life was important to Peg. Just remember she is with you in spirit, in your mind, in your heart, in your soul - that is where she will always be. Peace Barry.
-david
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