Help for my son.

Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by To soon, Aug 7, 2016.

  1. To soon

    To soon New Member

    I'm trying to find someone out there to help my son. His Beautiful girlfriend was diagnosed with signet ring cell cancer of the colon. She was 28 years of age. The two had been together 2 years and were buying a house. They went to the hospital on May 9, 2016 and she passed June 29, 2016. He is 27 years old. Her cancer was one of the most aggressive the Drs at MD Anderson have ever seen. With him being so young and it taking her so fast he has no answers. He feels shorted of the life they had planned together. He also lives 3 to 4 hours from his family. Does anyone have a similar story? Or advise I can give him? He is lonely, mad as hell, and feeling guilty. As his mom my heart is broken when I talk to him, this young man sobs like a baby and I can't do anything but listen.
     
  2. Lost Brandi

    Lost Brandi New Member

    So sorry for your son's loss. I too lost my husband at a young age. I understand his hurt and anger ( I suffer daily) In my opinion you're doing great by having a listening ear,sometimes that's all we need. The pain will never go away, and we'll never be the same. Having support helps and talking about that person you lost does too. I hope your son will find strength and comfort through you,as you seem to be caring and loving in this time of need. I'm not sure if you would want to suggest a support group in your area for him or counseling? Best of luck to you. Sorry for the loss.
     
  3. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Supporting someone in their grief is such a difficult thing, and I'm sure you are hurting and grieving along with your son. I find there's very little advice that can be given, as everyone grieves their loss so differently. But staying present, checking in often, showing your love, offering "tangible help" as you are able, and simply listening and sharing his pain....that's all any of us can do. You can always share this site with your son, and hopefully he would find a fellow griever to connect with who can help validate and support his experience. Best wishes to you at this very difficult time...
     
  4. Ray G.

    Ray G. Well-Known Member

    I too am sorry for your sons loss.
    Maybe as others have mentioned a support group. He is young and there could be others but I think he has to rest his heart and mind for a while to properly mourn his loss, I am by no means a specialist in these matters, it is just my opinion of past experience and I wish you both the best in the future.