Grieving my best friend

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Stiggy, Sep 4, 2018.

  1. Stiggy

    Stiggy New Member

    I am new to this site, and my loss happened this morning. My best friend of over 30 years, whom I was closer to than own family died suddenly. He has been my rock, my strength and my everything since I was 18. Met in college, and have talked or texted everyday since that time. Back in the day even wrote letters. I am in still in shock, and don’t know why he passed suddenly yet. I just know that overwhelmed, with profound sadness and feel so lost. I have a few friends, but none close by. He was an only child, and his elderly parents are the only ones left. I am close to them, and they think of me as part of the family, and I them as part of my family. Right now I am doing my best to just breathe, and that’s about it. I have worked in hospice for 9 years, but that all goes out the window when it is one so much a part of my very existence. I am looking for support from others, and also to support others. Want to my best to be there for his Mother and Father who are divorced. That’s what he what he would want. It’s hard to ask for help, but here I am asking. I am truly devastated!!
     
  2. DaughterGB

    DaughterGB Member

    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. My dad passed away 2 weeks ago and I'm also completely distraught. It's so hard losing someone so close to you. I don't have any advice for you because I too am trying to find a way to cope, but I am here to listen to you and help you in whatever way I may be able to. I know we're all strangers on this site, but I have found even the people around us that mean well, don't understand because they're not going through what we are.
     
  3. Kim Stone

    Kim Stone New Member

    I’m also new to this site. I’m losing one of my dearest friends. It’s a little different from most but my friend is 101 and was doing great until January 2nd.
    She was hospitalized due to pneumonia and had a quick readmit. Her only child and daughter had her admitted to a nursing home with a hospice status. I see she wants to live and try to recover but daughter wants her to pass peacefully. I’m only 51 but she has been a friend, like a grandmother and now someone I help provide care to. It’s strange but Ive been so distraught that I’m not sleeping, so very tearful and even though Im a nurse with lots of oncology experience, I’m so torn about the hospice status. I think it’s cruel and the emotional and ethical dilemmas are so tough and painful right now. I have a lot of guilt that I should have done more but Ive done lots more than any of her family and they even say she considered me a second daughter.

    im also new to this site