Advise needed and sorry for the long post. I’m trying to figure out if some things my sister has said/done are as bad as how it seems to me or if I’m just in such a vulnerable state that I’m being overly sensitive. I lost my husband 6 1/2 months ago, he was 54. My plan was to take my husband’s ashes back to Ireland but since we're in a pandemic I decided to have a one year celebration of his life next April in Ireland. My sister immediately said she and her family would come with me but could I make it during her 16 year old daughter’s spring break week. At the time I was not able to think let alone make good decisions and agreed. Once I had time to think I realized that I did not want to change the date. Meanwhile I did tell my sister that since we’re still in a pandemic and things may or may not be better by next April I will be going alone. She seemed fine with that and said whatever I wanted to do she would support me. In July, three months after my husband passed, my 94 year old mother, who is in a nursing home went to the ER with what we now know was something minor. My sister and her family were en route to their vacation home 2 hours away when she got the call from the nursing home (she is the health care proxy). My sister in turn called me saying she was on her way to the vacation home and left it at that. So I had to go to the ER by myself. My husband had been sent to the ER back in April and was hospitalized for 1 week before he passed. I never got to see my husband again. I was a mess in the ER waiting for news from the doctor/nurse about my mother and I felt very let down that my sister would not turn the car around and choose to support me (and my mother). My mother ended up staying 3 nights in the hospital and I visited her every day while my sister vacationed. My mother thankfully is ok. And most recently my sister, her 16 year old daughter and myself were driving to a park for a walk when a meaningful song came on the radio. I relayed the story of how I believe my husband sends me this song often, the words are “reaching out between the worlds…” I sang that part of the song putting my hand up as if reaching out to my husband. My sister did say, awww, but then turned to her daughter and asked if she was ok. I was so shocked that her reaction would be to ask her daughter how she was and I’m really not sure why she asked. Was it that I freaked my niece out by believing that my husband sends me signs? Was it just talking about my husband? I couldn’t ask at that time and it’s been too long now that it would be weird to bring it up. And to make matters worse it was supposed to be only my sister and I going for the walk but at the last minute she asked her daughter to go. My question to all of you is am I taking these actions or inactions from my sister too hard because I’m very vulnerable right now, still grieving and just being overly sensitive? Or is my sister being selfish and self absorbed? Not that it will change my relationship with my sister, I’ve known her my whole life and accept her faults and shortcomings I just want to know if I’m taking things wrong due to my circumstances. Thanks for reading and for any thoughts.