My husband passed away 10 months ago just after finalizing plans for our sons upcoming wedding. I have been taking baby steps with my 3 adult children (ages 18-28) which has felt right, but introduced the idea of my boyfriend (an old family friend who lost his wife 8 months prior to my spouse) attending the wedding. My son was quite definitive that he is not comfortable with the boyfriend attending (even as a family friend) knowing we are in a relationship. Do I defer to my son (after all it’s his big day?) or do I impress upon my son the importance of my boyfriend being there in hopes of him agreeing to let him come?