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3 weeks 2day

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Almso70, Sep 29, 2020.

  1. Almso70

    Almso70 Well-Known Member

    Well it's been 3 weeks since my little brother left this earth and let me tell you it's not getting any easier especially yesterday my birthday that was a tough day for me we always would hang with each other on our bdays sometimes i just don't want to go on it's just something that has deeply effected me. I think a part of me died when he did life is not the same anymore i can't seem to find any joy just despair why does god give us such joy then seems like he pulls the rug out from underneath i have a family and we where my brothers family i just wish time would stop and people would look around and c whats important in their lives
     
  2. Selma

    Selma Member

    I totally understand what you are saying, you can be extremely happy and have it all fall apart from one day to the other. I lost my boyfriend a year ago and I am grateful that I expressed my love to him everyday because I just hate when people don't value what they have and you can lose your loved one any minute.
    I admire you for keeping your head up, thank you for sharing your story. Please keep doing it, I am here for you.
     
  3. NoemiG.

    NoemiG. New Member

    I am sorry to hear about your brother, after I lost mine, I also lost grandfather, and two uncles within my lifetime at my 40's now it began at seven years old when loss began with my only brother age of five. All those losses traumatized me at one of my uncles passing away and I did not even recognize until a neighbor that came around every so often reminded me on how long I have kept myself in my room and avoided interacting with my children and did not want to babysit any longer, did not want a part in anything really! Five years it has been since my comforter and confider as my grandmother passed away, before this I were always there other then when I went home to take care of my children. I left my church moved away and would just like to live alone, but just to focus on God and just feel better. Felling that feeling again after five years, but I cannot give in to this trauma, so have finally reached out to a Pastor and watching services and keeping gospel music in mind. Along these years what I had learned from going to group helped me a lot. Communication and not focusing on how or why, later the answer you will know. Keeping in mind to not disappoint a loss member especially my grandmother I do not feel right doing, trying to keep on with their positives in your hands makes a meaning to me on keeping my grandmother in heaven proud of me and know I am not perfect, just trying!
     
  4. Almso70

    Almso70 Well-Known Member

    i am sorry everyday i wake up and that ache is there