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Too much loss

Discussion in 'LGBTQ Loss' started by Cshawcurry, Sep 29, 2023.

  1. Cshawcurry

    Cshawcurry New Member

    It's my first post. I have lost 7 people in the matter of 3 & 1/2 years. My father started the ball rolling, then my cousin, my brother-in-law, my mother, my aunt, my wife and my niece. I haven't been able to grieve one and I'm getting hit with another.

    Today is 5 months that my wife passed away, although I know she is no longer suffering I selfishly want her here still. It just hit me today that on my birthday it will be six months that she will be gone. My brain operates so weird, maybe it's because of the grieving I am going through I don't know.

    I feel so alone, I move down south to be with my wife where she felt comfortable with her doctors. But now I am all alone in a place that is strange to me.

    Anyone want to talk?
     
  2. AmyB87

    AmyB87 New Member

    Hi. I recently lost my wife. I'm having a ton of emotions and I also miss her selfishly. I truly believe in the afterlife and know she is with me but I just keep wishing she was beside me. I'm 37. My wife is 45. The loss of her has meant losing the person I loved most in this world along with my very best friend. I just wanted to reach out and let you know, you are not alone. I'm also in a place I moved to without any friends or family and the loss of my wife is devastating. Sending love.
     
  3. Leelee0763

    Leelee0763 New Member

    I lost my partner of 11 years to stage 4 lung cancer. We found out the beginning of June 2024 and she passed away July 8, 2024. I'm having a hard time. The holidays and her birthday are coming up, this will be the 1st without her. Going to her brother's for Thanksgiving and her sister's for Christmas. I feel so lost
     
  4. MamaDeb

    MamaDeb New Member

    Hi
    I can so relate. I have lost 5 in six months and my aunt is making her way soon to no more suffering. So it we I'll 6 deaths soon for us as acouple. I empathize with you. I feel like I am alone more now. I feel like the ones especially my aunt who has alzheimer's and is in transition with hospice now, will pass anyday now, has made me feel so by myself. She so was my support system when I was growing up. I grew up in an abusive home and my aunt and my grandparents whom are gone now, is the last of my support system with what family I have left. It is really hitting me hard.
    Sorry about your losses.
    Deb
     
  5. Leelee0763

    Leelee0763 New Member

    I'm so sorry for what you are going through. My heart aches. My aunt passed away in 2018 from dementia. November 11th. My mom passed away 14 years ago. My dad 24 years ago Oct 11th. Now my partner passed away July 8th, 2024. I feel lost
     
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  6. MamaDeb

    MamaDeb New Member

    I sorry you feel lost. But sometimes strangers make alittle difference by just listening. It is hard when we are lost. But know there are people out there going through similar things. I think it is going to be a rough rode ahead for me. I feel like I will be standing alone once my aunt passes away. All I will have after she passes is my brother, cousins, uncle who I hardly ever see and my biological mother whom I have a complicated relationship with. I am really going to feel so alone and empty when she passes.
     
  7. Chris M 2000

    Chris M 2000 Well-Known Member

    I am sorry for your losses. So many losses to deal with. That is very difficult, but I know you can do it. God is always available to strengthen, comfort, and heal.
    Love
    Chris