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The losses and trauma I have experienced over the last 6 years

Discussion in 'Dealing With Multiple Losses' started by Joe Writer, Jan 24, 2023.

  1. Joe Writer

    Joe Writer New Member

    I am going to be touching upon a lot here, but you need to know all the tidal waves of loss and trauma I have experienced over the last 6 years to know where I am coming from:

    Losses
    • Friend and mentor Karen Iwamoto to cancer, 2017 (expected)
    • Good friend Gardner Chappell to cancer, 2018 (expected)
    • Grandfather I never got the chance to meet (story attached) to serious injury and coma, 2019
    • Uncle Doug (maternal uncle) to Lewy Body dementia (history of dementia on maternal side), 2021 (very unexpected, he declined fast after COVID)
    • Uncle (in law) Phillip to kidney disease, 2022 (expected)
    • Dad, Lewy Body dementia (don't know about any history of dementia on dad's side, know very little about paternal side), 2022
    Non-loss trauma:
    • All around the same time in February-March 2018 (triple trauma)
      • Finding out grandfather was still living and had started new family (narrative attached)
      • Loneliness of living in Alaska and possibility of long lost sister (narrative attached)
      • Finding out Doug had Lewy Body dementia
    • The government shutdown of 35 days from December 2018 to January 2019 (lots of idle time, loneliness, little to no social interaction, in Anchorage during the dead of winter)
    • The Bureau of Land Management move out west and the monumental professional and personal stress my colleagues faced, 2019 to 2020 (background info here: https://publicland.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Relocation-of-BLM-Headquarters-2021-05.pdf)
    • The pandemic (being exiled from Washington DC back to Anchorage, returning to a different place than I left when I went to Washington DC
    I know this is a lot, and it would test the mental limits and strength of even extremely resilient people. My entire world and even what I thought I knew about my own family has been completely turned on its head.

    Anyway, here is why I am in this group. The loss of my dad is the most immediate topic, but there is so much more that preceded it.