I lost my husband right before Thanksgiving 2022 in a helicopter accident… something went wrong and he was the pilot. It was a violent and traumatic death and I still have nightmares and panic attacks. I had to sell our home and completely leave the area because I wasn’t getting any better. I’m surviving but not living. I’m trying but I’m SO ANGRY and so sad still. He was my best friend. I tried counseling for a while but I just didn’t feel like it was working. I love my family and my friends but they just don’t understand, except for my dad… we lost my mom to cancer when I was a teenager and it was very hard for him. I guess I’m just looking for some validation. Anyone out there lose a spouse in an accident?
Hello. I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, your best friend. Although different circumstances took my beloved, we share a similar pain. When people state 'time heals all things', I now know in this scenario it means a loooong time! I thought I was doing better/fine for the past couple of months and then last week it felt like I got slapped in the face. I felt suffocated by grief, my body felt like a coffin of suffering. Today is a better day. Let's all keep supporting each other in our shared burden of grief. Great Love. Great Loss. God bless you in your continuing journey... ~ Michael
KCT and Michael, HUGS to both of you. I and the others on this site understand what you are going thorough and are here to support you. Speak out - we are listening - we may not have the answer but we care.
I second Cree's post, we are here for you, and we understand because we are going through loss ourselves. Take care of yourself and keep posting your feelings!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I say that because I am but I also know those words will never make things better. I lost my husband in a single vehicle accident. He was coming home from a job (he traveled all the time for work) on January 12, 2024. The crash report stated that he lost control of the truck because of ice on the highway. It hit the guardrail and flipped onto the roof. There weren’t any witnesses and I have no idea why/how it happened. I have been lost ever since. And I completely know what you mean about people not understanding. I try talking to people because I want to tell them what’s going on in my head but they don’t get it. I tried therapy but I didn’t like it. I have talked with other widows and it helps a little. But nothing makes it better and nothing will ever take the pain away. I look for articles to read to help validate my feelings. I’ve read a couple of books: Widow to Widow and It’s Ok That You’re Not Ok. They validated some of my thoughts and feelings. I am also so angry and so very sad. I often think about the morning of his accident and replay what I think happened over and over again. I have anxiety now when it snows and if there’s any ice on the road I panic if I have to drive. I’m not sure how time will heal any of this or make things better.
DenaMarie HUGS, so sorry for your loss. Those of us here understand how hard it is. We, like you have felt that family and friends who have not experienced a loss do not understand and just want to get on with their lives. They don't understand we NEED someone to talk to and to listen to us. It does get softer over time and sometimes we can connect to another person who understands and cares. May you find that person either in your surroundings or on this site. HUGS
I just lost my husband to a insulin overdose. I was there and watched him die. I'm so sad to and I can't get it out of my head either. I know how your feeling I really do. Prayer helps and I'm close to God but sometimes it's not enough. Talking helps. I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you tonight when I pray for me. Love Mikelly
Hello. I lost my husband suddenly three weeks ago. It wasn't in an accident- he had a heart attack. But it was a complete shock because he was very fit, ate well, exercised every day, didn't smoke or drink... Never in a million years was I expecting this. He went out that morning to have breakfast with our son and then he came home, dropped me off at work, went for a walk in the park, and dropped dead. The police notified me at work. It was like a movie. I went to the hospital and saw his body. It made no sense. I'd seen him alive and well three hours before that. My entire world is shattered. I also don't know if I can continue living where I'm living. How can someone be in their body one minute, and then seconds later just be gone, irreversibly and forever? It makes no sense. I know I haven't fully absorbed the impact of all of this. The last few weeks have been a blur of phone calls, and filling out forms, and worrying about money, too, because he didn't leave me with much and had no life insurance. We were together for 30 years. I met him when I was 19 and I am 49 now. I just can't believe this happened.
Mikellvk, HUGS and so sorry for your loss. this was not club we ever wanted to join but it is a place to connect with others who understand and care and will talk with you.
Rissy,I am so sorry for your sudden loss. it is hard to accept because doesn't seem real. I hope your family is supportive and are there to comfort you. If you have time to look around this site you will find others who understand and will talk to you and listen to you. In time the feelings will find a place and will soften but until then i wish you strength on your journey,
I'm so sorry you and I both lost our husbands about the same time. Yesterday I cleaned out his closet and thought I was ok with it. About halfway through it I cried and just held his work shirts. His smell is still here and that's hard. I'm getting better but it still consumes everything in my life. It's hard to live without them. Even food shopping isn't the same. I will pray for you. Much love
