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Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by Lost and in pain, Jul 20, 2022.

  1. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Lou, good morning. I don't have a name for my kitty yet. Not sure why you mentioned I named her Hobby. But, that's a consideration. My brain is in freeze mode as far as choosing a name. Nothing hits me and everyone is asking what is her name and it's time to name her. It's only been 2 weeks since I got her I tell them.
     
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  2. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Lou, I get it now. I think it was Rose who suggested a hobby for me. That's where you thought I named her Hobby.
     
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  3. Gary166

    Gary166 Well-Known Member

    Hello Karen. How about Zelda for your kitten’s name? It is a warrior name like Rambo and was used as both male and female names in mythology.
     
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  4. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Love Zelda, Gary! That was the name of
    the crazy wife of F. Scott Fitzgerald. Lou
     
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  5. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Karen, I know it was a mistake, but
    Hobby is a fun name! I also like Gary's
    suggestion of Zelda. 2 syllables work
    better. Feel free to name your rascal cat
    Louis, after me ! Lou
     
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  6. Countess Joy

    Countess Joy Well-Known Member

    What about Echo?
    She’s reminding you of Rambo… that could be Echo the divine feline.
     
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  7. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Bernadine, that"s a clever, fun, and
    meaningful name, and I'm glad it has 2
    syllables. Lou
     
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  8. Gary166

    Gary166 Well-Known Member

    Karen I love how everyone has come together to give you ideas to name your kitten. I remember how much you love pine trees and it made me think of the name of a nature preserve I used to be a steward at. It’s name was Lonidaw which meant Spirit Queen of the Forest. Gary
     
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  9. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Well, I should call her spitfire, or spitball. Non stop energy.
     
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  10. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Echo, I like.
     
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  11. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Louis for a female cat, Hum!
     
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  12. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Oh, no, Karen, not the dreaded "Hum!".
    The heat & humidity, plus foggy
    widower's brain , made me think it was
    another male cat. Lou
     
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  13. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    I wanted a male, but got a female. Hobby is cute I agree.
     
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  14. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Karen, tears rolled down my cheeks today.
    when I read the obituary of Olivia
    Newton-John, at my age of 73. She had
    been battling breast cancer for 30 years,
    and set up a trust to help others. When I
    read that her cancer spread to her back,
    and she was in a lot of pain, I thought of
    poor Linda in both the hospital and in the
    rehab unit of a nursing home, for PT to
    help her walk. As you know, Linda died
    suddenly of a pulmonary embolism, right
    in front of me. Her favorite nurse, about
    her age of 68, said that had Linda lived,
    she would've suffered in pain, endured
    COVID ( and I would not have been able to
    visit), and an uncertain future. However
    I look at it, it SUCKS BIG TIME, to quote our
    friend, Deb, who's currently MIA. Mr. G
    kicked me in the balls today, and I'm
    doubled over in emotional pain. I needed to reach out to you, Karen, the inventor of
    Mr. Grief. Life goes on, and I'm going to
    an outdoor rock band concert at the
    American Legion bandstand tonight. I
    will seek serenity when I look at the
    sunset over the ocean across the street.
    Thank you for being my go to friend. Lou
     
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  15. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Oh Lou, I didn't know Olivia passed. Something like this brings back all the horrid memories of what Linda went through. It's impossible to delete the memories.
    When I hear about someone dying of Sarcoma cancer all the pain, doctor visits, radiation, medicine Jack took all for nothing, the cancer spread from his hip to his neck just before they were to do surgery to remove the tumor.

    If Linda had lived her life would have been nothing, living in a facility in constant pain. What kind of life is that? I say, if I was in any constant pain just shoot me.

    I'm glad you are going to a concert tonight, you are truckin on and you have come a long way. Mr. Grief softens for you at times and that means a lot. K
     
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  16. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Thank you for your prompt reply, my
    dear friend. Karen. Sitting near popcorn,
    soda & hot dogs , sold by my veteran
    pals. They are mostly Vietnam vets, and
    rag on me all the time, but I give it back.
    After the summer concerts, the Legion will
    resume the open house coffee. I'm the only
    non veteran. They call me Lou Gehrig.
    They respect me, bc they know I had PTSD
    like they did, but seeing my wife die,
    instead of seeing a buddy die, or being
    wounded in battle. One friend, married
    over 50 yrs, sits with me every Sat am in
    the other seasons. He still has occasional
    nightmares that the Viet Cong are
    chasing him up main street. I told him I
    can't imagine that. Lou
     
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  17. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Having friends who know loss is very precious. Having nightmares is so awful for the Vets and I guess they live with it always.
     
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  18. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Yes, my friend who has nightmares, was
    shot in the legs in Vietnam, and has
    trouble walking, at 75, but rides a bike
    around town. He has a warm wife, a
    mischievous smile, and like many in my
    seaside town, looks younger than he is. L
     
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  19. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    That sea air keeps one young.
     
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  20. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Yes, and a positive attitude and love of
    people, like my role model, a 98 year
    old widow, who doesn't dwell in the past. L
     
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