Lost my amazing, most treasured husband of almost 47 years August 3 after a valiant struggle with cancer. First diagnosed in early 2017 he fought hard and endured much without complaint. He was so much more than my husband and my world felt safer when he was by my side. I don't want to be here and if not for our two sons l would have checked out already. There's no joy in my life any longer. I go through the motions each day but in truth l just want to be with him. I miss EVERYTHING about him.
Crazycatlady, so very sorry to hear about your husband's death, from the awful, unforgiving disease of cancer, after many years of marriage. My wife, Linda, had endometrial cancer in the early 2000s.She was hospitalized, in great pain. & was given morphine. After we moved to another state, she seemed OK. But, right around Oct, 2018, she had developed agony in her back & headache She had to go to the ER, & then to a rehab/ unit in a nursing home, so she could eat. One horrible day, right before Thanksgiving, Linda collapsed in front of me, & I was in a state of shock after 25 years of marriage. She died from a pulmonary embolism, while trying to walk without her walker. Linda was 68. We read Tom Zuba's book, Permission to Mourn, & have recommended it to our group.Zuba was suicidal, but had to watch 2 of his kids. May I ask your name & that of your husband? Lou
Hello Crazycatlady. I’m very sorry for your loss. My name is Gary and I lost my girlfriend Cheryl 8 months ago suddenly and unexpectedly to a cardiac arrest. There were no warning signs and no health problems. Cheryl died of obstructive sleep apnea. The loss of someone we really love busts us into a million pieces. I was in complete shock for 3 months and have made a slight improvement since. I hope there are in person grief support meetings in your area. I have been going to the in person grief meetings since Cheryl passed but they only meet twice a month. GIC has filled in the gap for me. Check the site centersforloss.com and read the article 6 needs of reconciliation for the mourner. This will jumpstart you on your grief journey. I was in counseling until I found GIC. Here no one ever has to grieve alone. That is our mantra established by our friend Patti. We understand what each other is going through and love and encourage each other to take action which gives us temporary relief. You definitely belong with us Crazycatlady. Please interact with us. Gary
Crazycatlady, I wish I had the words to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. Words seem so impersonal, even cold, at times like this, but there're all I have, so I hope you know gow very sorry I am. My husband, Bob, died over eight months ago. It'll be nine months on January 11th. He suffered from many medical conditions, all requiring different specialists. (One of the many things he suffered from was kidney cancer that spread to his lungs.) I became his full time caregiver in the beginning of 2018, and took care of him until he passed. I have some things I need to accomplish, so stopping here (for now.) I'm so sorry you had to find us, but glad you did. Joining GIC has been one of the best decisions I've made since Bob's death. This is a wonderful site. All of us "get" it, and are here to support each other, offer advice, (you can take it or leave it, our feelings won't be hurt,) provide virtual hugs, and comfort from knowing you are not alone... I'm so grateful for the friends I've made here... I'm not sure how I would make it through this total heartbreak, if I didn't have them to help me along this way beyond miserable journey, that not one of us would have chosen to take. I hope you stick around, give us a chance to get to "know" you better. Sending you lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB
Im.so sorry for your loss. You have lost a part of you so everything you feel is expected. Allow your kids to continue to be your motivation. Plan small things to do to give you something to look forward to. I have two small kids and they are the reason I keep going. It been almost two years since I lost Gant and it feels like it just happened sometimes..i think lately its been hard because his bday is this month.. I push myself to get moving because I no who's counting on me. Pray for strength each day and definitely reach out to people here. You are in the right place with people that understand what you feeling and are here to support you.
Hey Crazycatlady, First in for most I am so so sorry for your loss secondly for you to call yourself crazycatlady brought a smile or a little bit of laughter to myself I hope you don’t mind. I think it shows a little bit sense of humor on your part. That aside there is nothing funny about losing our loved one to cancer. I call it the monster for that’s what took my wife almost 2 years ago now. She was 59 and had esophageal cancer. I miss her as much as the first day she was gone through almost 2 years now it’s just seems so surreal and I still can’t believe it. I believe you reach a point to where you just don’t cry as much because you can’t put yourself through it no more. It’s such an emotional and physically draining of yourself And only those who have gone through this understand. From great Love comes great loss. It truly truly is a fight every stinking day and we always will want our spouses back.Hold on don’t let go keep your sons close . Every one of us knows the emotions you have ,this grief stuff it’s just hard crap. Like Lou said this is where the warrior comes out in you ,you just need to fight and truly take one day at a time one step at a time never give in never give up ,be strong and very courageous God bless you.
Tom, it was good to see you on here again, helping others. I thought you had moved on. I remember that you're a a few years younger than I am. My user name is Van Gogh, but my name is Lou. My wife, Linda, of 25 years of marriage, died suddenly, right before Thanksgiving, 3 years ago. I recall how we agreed the holidays were very tough without Gina & Linda. I have 3 younger " brothers" on this site: Gary, George, and Chad. I hope you will stay with us on GIC. Thank you for giving me credit for TGW. Lou
Crazycatlady, I remember that we "talked" before. My user name is Van Gogh, but my name is Lou, & my wife of 25 years of marriage, was Linda. Our losses are beyond terrible, but I'm glad we have the support of the kind people on GIC. It's good to see Sweetcole and Tom (tgotyall) comforting you. I thought they had moved on. We will help each other. I may have asked you this already, but may I ask your first name, & that of your husband? It has helped me to connect with people. Lou
