Lost sense of being me.

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Ray G., May 20, 2019.

  1. Ray G.

    Ray G. Well-Known Member

    I think what I am going through
    is loss of indentity. I loved being
    a husband and taking care of my
    wife as well as doing what was
    needed in running a home.
    Grocery shopping, house maint.
    I miss all that and of course, at
    the end of the day, being with
    my wife. I enjoyed cooking for
    my Sofia as well as doing the
    dishes after she made s gr8
    chilli. And I so miss going to
    church with her, the sweet
    church we were married in.

    As time goes by, I know I will
    be doing o.k. but it won' t
    mean that I will be happy.
    I will be looking at life from
    a different attitude or maybe
    perspective is a better word.
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  2. Ralph Basile

    Ralph Basile New Member

    Hello Ray, I too feel like I lost my identity. For 9 years after my mother's stroke I took care of her. I mean as a child I always said when the time came she would never be in a home but didn't realize I would actually be her caregiver and everything that it involved. Meals, medication, appointments, transfers, toileting, baths....etc. taking care of her was my whole life. Not she is gone and I feel like I don't have a purpose. I haven't worked in 7 years, in the last year I rarely saw my friends and forget about relationships. I don't want to do anything and the things I do just remind me of her. I know I have a long road ahead of me and I appreciate your story and I am so sorry for your loss. I did connect with your pain and confusion and just hope that it helps lessen my pain and confusion. Thank you for your words