Lost My Wife and Soulmate less than 2 weeks ago

Hello all,

I'm grateful to have found this site. My wife died suddenly less than 2 weeks ago. She had had some health problems and I had to take her to the hospital, but they never found anything on an MRI or CAT scan. She thought that having low sodium levels (se was losing weight on a low salt diet) was giving her seizures, but I think now that she had a missed blood clot and should have been on a blood thinner. Her doctors seem to have missed giving her the medication, as they were focussed on anti-seizure meds that she couldn't take.

At any rate, after seeming to get better while on electrolyte pills I found her in our home, gone. I knew it was too late when I saw her. I still feel bereft and don't understand why she didn't find out more about her blood analysis, which might have meant that she'd still be with me today. I'm angry that her doctors didn't just prescribe the meds to her.

We were together for 40 years and I'm having a hard time adjusting to the new reality.

Thanks so much for listening.

 

So very sorry for your loss. An unexpected loss like yours will take time for your heart to even really accept the reality of it.
May God grant you a sound mind, peace, and health.
Chris

 

I really feel for you. In December, my wife of 34y suddenly passed due to a pulmonary embolism. One minute she was fine, the next she was gone. I am in the same boat as you. This really sucks and I know how you feel. She was my best friend and confidant and now she is gone. I have since been seeing a therapist and joined a grief support group. Both of those have helped immensely. If those are not options for you, do you have a good friend that can provide additional support? This web site has also been a good outlet for me as well. Just being able to to talk to others that know what you are going through does help....

 

My husband died suddenly 2 weeks ago, I am not ready to share on that, but I wanted to congratulate your courage in sharing, and seeking solace out here in the world.

 

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. The suddenness of the loss was a real shock to me, as I'm sure it is to you. I have been in the GriefShare program, which is at many area churches, where you can meet folks who are in a similar circumstances. Also the online Grief in Common monthly meetings with Karyn specifically for the loss of a spouse. I encourage you to share with someone when you feel it is right for you. Take care and all the best, Eric

 

Thank you for your post! I'm sorry it took me awhile to respond. I'm sorry to hear of your loss, and I hope you are feeling better. I have joined the GriefShare program and Grief in Common online monthly meetings with Karyn. They have helped quite a bit! I also have a good friend who grew up with my wife and we speak regularly. You are so correct that talking to others who know what you're going through does help! I also prepared a memorial concert for my wife with many musician friends which we presented last month. We had over 100 people in person and many more online. It was very helpful to me to create a tribute for her and write special music which I played at the memorial. So I'm doing a bit better but it is still hard... Thanks again for writing to me!

 

I lost my husband to a very rare incurable cancer on August 5 of this year. We were married for 30 years, he was my best friend and we did everything together. I am so lonely and nothing soothes me. I do not have any really close friends because he was my friend. I come home to an empty house and just cry. He went into hospice to get his pain meds under control and went into a coma like state. I never got to talk to him after four days in hospice. My heart is broken and I can’t fix it. I still work, so that helps a little. We were not ones to just sit around, we were always doing something on the weekends. My world is upside down.

 

My wife died of cancer in july 2025. I am still trying to understand how to live without her. Everything reminds me of her. I cry a fair bit particularly walking the dog. I understand how you feel about a potential missed diagnosis. This happened to us too. Be kind to yourself.