Lost my husband when out of town

I went to Europe to visit relatives and when I was there my husband died unexpectedly. I feel so traumatized and my whole life is turned upside down. In addition we were in the middle of an ugly lawsuit. Being an immigrant I don’t have family nearby except my wonderful son but he’s only 26. Drowning.

 

So sorry for your loss. I too was out of state when my husband died on 8/21/19 and I felt guilty for over 1 year that I wasn’t home with him that I could have saved him. I still have visions in my head seeing my husband’s body in that black body bag. I was traumatized and in shock that he was dead - I kissed him goodbye and left to go to Philadelphia 3 days prior to his death- who knew that this would be the last time I’d see him alive?

 

Hi Dutchgirl I’m extending my condolences to you. I was also out of town/out of state when my husband died unexpectedly 6 years ago so I can relate as to how you’re feeling. When I arrived to our former friends mobile home where we were living at the time, the police wouldn’t let me see my husband and didn’t give me any indication as to how my husband died. After waiting outside for nearly 2 hours, two EMT’s were carrying out a black body bag which had my husband’s body in it and I lost it emotionally and this is embedded in my mind forever. It took me five (5) days to have his body returned to our hometown. The undertaker was a friend of my late grandfather and he made sure that I got my husband out of the state of New Jersey and all of the funeral home staff were very attentive to me and assisted me with the life insurance paperwork so I was able to pay the funeral home as well as his cremation and the 2 marble urns that I purchased each containing his ashes.
My husband’s family members all turned their backs on me after I told his brother in law that he died. We were estranged from his family for years prior to his death. I had my daughter, my mother and my cousin as my support system.