she died september. my 3 sisters seem to be healing normally but i can not stop thinking or crying. i have all the mixed feelings. what makes it even harder is that the only comfort i get is when i have faith in some sort of afterlife, but i worry it may just be wishful thinking. all in all, i worry i will never get over this. she suffered so much for many years, but i guess the selfish person in me never wanted to lose her. we were best friends. she was my rock. everyone that meets me says i look exactly like she did in her younger (and healthy) days. i just want to hug her again. i'm 40 and i feel like i need to get a grip but i can not stop crying.
I’m so sorry for your loss of your mother and the degree grief you’ve been experiencing. I’ve been advised not to compare my grief with that of others. It makes a lot of sense and seems like good advice and a healthy approach to adopt. But honestly for me, it has been difficult having family members who seem to be adapting and moving forward in their own grief process, when I am nowhere close to that state. I can empathize with a lot of what you say, I lost my mother in September. We were very close and although I knew it would be incredibly difficult, it shook me in ways that I never anticipated. Her birthday in November and the Thanksgiving holiday brought me back to the state where I wonder if and how I will get to the point where I am more grounded emotionally and cognitively. Sending you positive thoughts during this difficult time.
thank you so much. "shaken" is a good word. there hasn't been a day i don't cry, and her birthday was in october, too, so it's been a difficult few months to say the least. they say things will get better and i'm sure i will eventually stop crying, but i feel confident that i will never truly have happiness again because a big part of my life and heart is gone. moments of happiness here and there, sure, but who knows. i hope you find the strength to get through.
I'm so sorry for what happened and for the incredible loss you are suffering. It does get better. My Dad died in April and I know what you mean about saying your parent was your rock. Parents are truly irreplaceable- their love is so pure, selfless, unconditional and perfect. I think with losing a parent there's a fear of living life without any more perfect support but that's not true. You have your Mom's DNA as you look a lot like her, years of training, encouraging, teaching- you are prepared for what lies ahead in life, she did prepare you. Also, she got you through turbulent teens, 20's and 30's, I believe the waters to come are calmer. You can do this. When I wake up and feel overwhelmed I just focus on what I need to do just that day. Well, I think people should take as long as they need to grieve, cry as much as they want, there's no set pattern of right and wrong. Big e-hug!! It gets better.
My Mom died in October. I am still crying everyday. I have 3 siblings. I cry at work, I cry at home when the tears come I let them come. Luckily right now I am not bawling in front of others at strange times. But I am crying everyday still. This is so hard.
I cry at work often. It's sad we feel we have to pretend to be strong when all we want to do IS cry. I constantly cry but I try to at least be quiet crying in my cubicle vs. loud, to not make it awkward for others. I am sorry for your loss; here we are looking for a place to release our emotions that only others that have gone through can relate with. They say it gets better; I feel like we just learn how to live with the pain. But I know the experience is different for everybody.
My mother died in March 9, 2025. I feel empty and lost without her. I can’t stop crying and thinking of her. I had to put her in comfort care the last 2 weeks of her life. Two of my sisters and I took care of her 24/7 until our 4th sister put it in our mother’s head that we were poisoning her with the medication. My mother started spitting out The morphine and lorazepam which caused her to suffer the last four days of her . My mother died thinking she was being Poisoned by us because of our 4th sister Lies.
I just lost my mom two weeks ago tomorrow and I am totally devastated I feel like I am in a whole sinking and can't get out, she was my best friend and the last two weeks I helped take care of her even though I did not know that she was dying I thought she was still recovering from a recent fall my life feels empty now!
I certainly understand about siblings I had a brother who with his witch wife barely came to see my mother over the last several years and lived 5 minutes away but they sure made it over the minute they knew she was dying now they are just waiting for the house to be cleared out so they can have their money all my mother's precious things that you loved it is breaking my heart that my evil brother and sister-in-law will share in what was so special to my mother even up until the day she died she loved her little crafts and her little things that she did and now I can't stop them, she was broke it hard in her only son walked away from her years ago for no reason greed!
Sorry for the typos everyone what I meant to say is she was Brokenhearted that her only son walked away from her life for no other reason than greed
Sending you hugs and just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I lost my Daddy almost a year ago and went through similar valleys. After a while I have learned to smile again and try to focus on what I need to do for each minute, hour and how I can help people. I didn't try to fight being sad. Things will change; it gets better. Sending hugs!
