I feel like it's been ages since I've "talked" to everyone... So much has happened since I've been MIA. Exactly 15 months and 1 day after Bob passed away, I was traveling east, in the right hand lane of a very busy road, when a car blew through a stop sign, and slammed into the right side of my car (think T-bone). I knew the car was going to hit me. I hoped by steering to the right, I could get off of the road, out of traffic, and onto the grassy strip, before it happened, but the car came at me too fast. My car went forward for a few seconds, then did a U turn, ended up facing west, balancing on the two left wheels, the right side of the car in the air. All the airbags deployed. It was so over the top SCARY!!!, TUTTAM!!!
I was squeezed in by the airbags, so couldn't see out the windows, but had a feeling I wasn't on solid ground. I remember thinking of all Bob had to endure, how strong and brave he was throughout the very worst times in both of our lives. I thought about one of his very favorite sayings, "As long as I'm on the right side of the dirt, it's a good day." I told myself I CAN!!! HANDLE!!! THIS!!! I believe Bob was watching over me... I thought about what he would tell me to do. At this point, I was emotionally blank, and tried to think logically like Bob always did.
I knew I had to get out. I was able to unbuckle my seat belt, open the driver's side door, and slide out from underneath the airbags, into the grass. I'm so very grateful no one else was in the car!!!. If someone had been sitting on the right side of my car, I doubt he/she would have been as lucky as I was. The entire right side was smashed in, pieces of the right side of the car, all over the road.
As soon as I was out of the car, not thinking rationally any longer, my first thought was that I had to get the keys to my house which were in the center console. Two men who had witnessed the accident, pulled me away from the car before I could try to do this. They told me they were afraid it might roll over. There were pieces of the right side of my car all over the road. I was so unbelievably lucky to have been able to get out of that car!!!, TUTTAM!!!
The witnesses said the accident was entirely the other driver's fault, and after seeing it as it happened, were amazed I was able to get out of the car by myself. They stayed with me until the ambulance arrived, then gave their names and phone numbers to one of the officers at the scene of the accident. At this point I didn't realize I had been hurt, so let an EMT clean up a couple of minor cuts on my face, but refused to go to the hospital. If I had gotten into that ambulance, they would have taken me to the hospital where Bob was treated so horribly as he was dying. NO WAY!!! will I ever go back there again!!!, TUTTAM!!!
Backing up a bit, ironically, my car ended up on the grassy strip in front of a car dealership. One of the witnesses worked there, so he walked with me inside the dealership, had me sit down, brought me a bottle of water, and insisted on staying with me until my close friend arrived. I was still emotionally blank, but as soon as my friend came running over and hugged me, the floodgates opened...
She brought me to a "doc in the box," a/k/a, a free standing walk in ER. The doctor didn't bother to examine me, but had me explain how I was feeling. By this time, I was dizzy,I felt like I was on a cruise ship during a bad storm after a few too many drinks. As well as being dizzy, I had a headache, left eye pain, chest pain, neck, and shoulder pain. She ordered a CAT scan of my brain, one of cervical spine, and two chest X-Rays. I was told to follow up with my primary care physician.
Very long story short, I was so very fortunate!!! I walked out of that wreck with only a concussion, a chest contusion, a/k/a, as bruised rib, a neck, and a shoulder injury. I was later diagnosed with post concussion syndrome, and although feeling a zillion times better than I did!!!, no more miserable, one too many drinks, while on a cruise ship, during a storm, sort of feeling, I still have difficulty doing everyday things, find it harder to stay organized, and frequently have to reread things in order to retain what I read. I only feel slightly off balance, slightly dizzy when turning my head, but this is something I can deal with. I feel so much better than I did. My rib has healed, but I still have neck and shoulder pain.
I recently began PT, 3x/week, for the next 6 weeks. My neurologist said that while he doesn't think he's going to find anything, he ordered two MRI's, one of my brain and one of my cervical spine. He said that CAT scans don't pick up all possible injuries. He said that given the type of injuries I have, there is a chance I could develop other symptoms later on. He said he wants the MRI's so if this should happen, he has a baseline for comparison.
While it makes sense, and I'm glad he is being so thorough, I'm terrified!!!, TUTTAM!!!, I've always been claustrophobic. My neurologist said he ordered specialized tests that can only be done in a closed MRI. I'm going to be stuck in that box (when I referred to it this way, my neurologist immediately said, "it's a tube, not a box!!!," as if this makes a difference, lol...) for twice as long because I have to have two of them. I've been given some excellent advice, to close my eyes before going into the tube, keep them closed until I'm finally allowed out, to try meditation, and to listen to music. Since Bob's death, now over 16 months ago, I still can't listen to rock or the blues, anything that we used to enjoy together, so I think I'm going to try listening to either classical or piano music, something I don't usually listen to. Hopefully, it'll have a calming effect. The last thing I want is to be stuck inside that box, a/k/a tube, with Mr. Grief!!!, TUTTAM!!!
As much as I hate taking meds, I asked my neurologist to give me a script for something to help me remain calm. My MRI(s) are scheduled for Friday. My good friend who lives nearby is going with me. I'm so very grateful!!!, TUTTAM!!! for this. When I think of what all of our spouses, loved ones, significant others, partners, etc, etc, etc, had to endure prior to their deaths, or what some of my friends have to endure who have much more serious health issues than I do, I know I CAN!!! and WILL!!! do this!!!
Enough about me!!! I've missed my GIC "family" so very much!!!, TUTTAM!!! (last one for now) I want to visit more often, but will still be MIA at times, to give myself the space and time I need to fully recover. I hope everyone is doing okay, or as okay as possible, given our circumstances.
As always, sending you lots of love and hugs, wishing you peace. DEB
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