2 losses in 8 months

Hi there
I suddenly lost my dad only 3 days ago . I found him on his living room floor . He was previously healthy, or so we thought. I’m having a hard time dealing with the fact that I went to his home twice in the week but didn’t let myself in as I just thought he was out. Little did I know he had probably been laid on his floor dead the whole week and I never knew, never let myself in to check.
7 months ago my brother was sent to prison, he was sentenced only a month ago to 5 years custodial sentance. The grief of losing 2 people within 8 months feels too much to bare. I know my brother will eventually return but the stress of it all feels too heavy. I have 2 young children and a husband , but just feel so broken.

 

Sorry to hear about this. I too loss my grandma who was like a second mom and lived with us all my life in December. I also loss my dad in March, he had a massive heart attack while at a casino with my mom. I know the feeling of regret. The should have and would have that we play in our heads. I don’t have much to say but feel your feelings. Try to reach to God of your understanding and lean onto him for some peace and comfort

 

Hannah2024
I lost my mom March 18th after complications from a knee replacement. I could no longer watch her suffer and chose to put her on hospice care where she passed 4 days later. She would have been 83 on April 14th. She lived in an RV just outside my backdoor where she claimed to be happier than she had ever been in her life. On her birthday, my best friend (Brenda) passed from complications of a weight loss surgery. Those 2 women were my dearest and closest friends. They were the ones I went to when I needed to get back on path. To say I am broken or lost, or any other words would be a gross understatement. I am learning the stages of grief and trying to recognize the symptoms of each new stage. I found hope in setting a goal to bring honor to their memories to be the person they saw in me. The person I could never see myself as. I just saw myself as a caregiver to mom, and a friend to Brenda (also my partner in table shuffleboard) but they saw me as so much more! We need to look at ourselves through the eyes of those who love us most. I'm no super hero, but to them I was. So now I've got to wear that cape with pride and honor the women who gave me the courage to be me, even though I am not the same person I was while they were here with me. I'm glad your here, looking for help through your grief. A safe place to discuss your true feelings, even when you don't understand them yourself.

 

TANSI (Hello)
My name is Ruby. Thank you for sharing.
My life changed drastically on October 27,2023 when my on/off partner of 33 yrs OD we have 3 beautiful Seedlings he was working on his Sobriety then January 12,2024 my Bestest Best Buddy passed VERY SUDDENLY and then on May 4, 2024 we sent my nephew home, who was missing for 6+ yrs. It's been a struggle but I've reached out,which was very hard and new to me but I know that it will help me and I hope that it will give others to reach out for help.

 

Hi Hannah2024 I’m so sorry for your loss. It must have been very traumatizing to find your father deceased in his home. As far as your brother, he’ll be released after he completes his sentence and hopefully he’ll give you emotional support and be attentive to you and your needs. It must be very hard for you to keep your emotions in tact for the sake of your children and your husband. I didn’t have young children to tend to when my husband died 6 years ago. Do you have a support system of friends and family members you can talk to? It’s always a good thing to have supportive people in your life especially when it comes to a death.