Stacey, Lou, George, and Gary,
FOOD!!! I think there is a reason why it's a four letter word!!!, TU!!! Food should be something enjoyable, period. Unlike sleep, which no matter how hard we try, there are way too many times we can't control how many quality hours we're able to get, food is within our control. But, and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, when MG hits us full force, when MG deprives us of some much needed!!!, TU!!! sleep..., when MG has us right where he wants us, down on that mat, struggling to get up..., our coping mechanisms are totally out of whack, a perfect recipe for attempting to find comfort wherever we can, but not always having the strength to do it in a healthy way. FOOD... I could go on and on and on and on, etc., etc., etc., ... "talking" about this, until I totally exhaust even that Energizer Bunny...
Most of my life, but much more so since Bob's death, I've had a sort of love/hate relationship with food. I'm a major chocoholic and love ice cream, almost forgot to add salsa and tortilla chips too, but, and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, if I'm going to eat it, it has to be worth eating. Meaning when it comes to my favorite comfort/junk foods, I will only eat my favorite brands, make those calories worth it (I don't always feel like those calories are worth it, another story for another time). I know, I'm way too spoiled when it comes to this!!!, TU!!!
I found myself mindlessly munching while tuning out of reality, wrapped in my super soft bereavement blanket, tuning into mindless TV. I weighed myself and found out I was almost 5 lbs over my usual weight. While I could still fit into all or most of my clothing, it definitely didn't fit the same, not the fit I was going after. I decided that if I was ever going to win my battle with MG, I needed to start by taking the best care of myself I possibly could. This means doing whatever I have to do to ditch my unhealthy eating patterns. (Backing way up, sort of on, sort of off topic, when Bob's health first began it's rapid downhill spiral, I couldn't eat, lost a lot of weight, but have since gained it all back. If I had been able to eat back then, I hate to think how heavy I would be now.)
Although I don't think I've ditched that additional weight, judging by the way my clothes fit, (not brave enough to step on the scale), I'm doing the things to ditch my very unhealthy method of trying to feel emotionally better, in the ways that have always worked best for me in the past. Stacey, I laughed when you mentioned a run on sentence in one of your messages this morning. I think I could win the world's record for the most and longest run on sentences!!!, TU!!! But, it's okay since George was an English major (at least I think this is what he told me) and a teacher, and has told me many times that he forgives me for this. I know he'll forgive you too, lol...!!!
Backing up to the beginning, in one way I'm very fortunate, because in general, even as a child, I preferred healthy foods over junk food. I remember when the first McDonald's opened up in my town, my parents took me there to check it out. Everyone enjoyed it, except me. I've always been a big fruit and veggie eater, and never ate red meat until I met Bob. Then he made me his famous baby back ribs, and I was hooked!!! I've always preferred baked potatoes to fries, love baked sweet potatoes (no butter in my potatoes), and eat lots of salads. Before MG hit me hard, back in the days when chopping up fruits and veggies wasn't a big deal, draining me of whatever little energy I had, I used to make big salads for dinner, adding in lots of different types of veggies and fruit, and adding in grilled chicken or shrimp. I love that Bernadine is such a healthy eater!!!, TU!!!, especially now, when having to deal with MG. Bernadine's messages about her healthy meals, made from fresh veggies in her garden, are helping me get back on track. Thank you, Bernadine!!!
Like Gary, whenever I'm craving something that I don't want to eat, I eat an apple. Most of the time this works, or will at least make it so that I don't eat as much of something else. I don't believe there is any such thing as willpower. Like I think all of you are doing, or going to do, I don't buy the things I know I can't stop myself from eating. Although I love milk chocolate, I now only buy dark chocolate, super dark chocolate, the brands with the least amount of sugar. I now crave dark chocolate as much as I crave milk chocolate. I have a small serving daily. I don't know why, but I can stop after that small serving. I can't do this with chips and salsa so haven't been buying it as frequently. I only buy mostly healthy foods, but find if I'm really craving something, I will eat anything in sight to try to get rid of that craving. This doesn't work for me. So, I have to have my daily chocolate fix, and if I'm really craving those chips and salsa, I will let myself have some, otherwise I could find myself needing to buy an entirely new wardrobe, something I refuse to do!!!, TU!!!
I've been texting friends while "talking" to you, and lost my train of thought. But, before I go, (now I'm going to sound like a commercial, or one of those annoying late night infomercials), I LOVE!!! RX Bars, especially the chocolate sea salt and the pumpkin spice varieties. They are all natural, made with very few ingredients, all of them healthy ingredients, no added sugar, sweetness comes from dates, and have 12 grams of protein per bar. Each bar, or at least the flavors I eat have 210 calories. When MG hits me hard, I sometimes eat one of these for lunch with an apple, or have one instead of eating cookies or cake (another weakness). Surprisingly, these seem to help me ditch those cravings. Stopping here. I think the Chicago Bar Co., or whoever owns RX Bars, should send me a free case as a thank you for being such a loyal fan, and promoting their product, lol...
Stopping here... As you can tell, this is one subject I just can't seem to stop "talking" about!!!, TU!!! (last one of the morning) Wait... almost forgot, Lou, whenever Bob and I used to go out for a nice meal, we would order a large bottle of Pelligrino or Perrier. I used to add either a lemon or lime wedge to mine. Love it!!!
Really going now. Hope all of you, all of TGW, have at least one, but hoping many more reasons to LMSO today.
As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB
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