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    <title>Coping After a Sudden Loss</title>
    <description>Coping After a Sudden Loss</description>
    <pubDate>Tue, 06 Oct 2026 20:07:56 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Boomer our grandson</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 27 Sep 2026 17:43:38 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/boomer-our-grandson.3962/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (Vab)</author>
      <dc:creator>Vab</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[We lost our first grandson from HIE. we are so sad. We grieve for our sweet grandson but also for our son and fiance.]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>I Lost my beautiful wife.. the Love of my life</title>
      <pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2026 20:21:31 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-lost-my-beautiful-wife-the-love-of-my-life.3930/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (Jebukah77)</author>
      <dc:creator>Jebukah77</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[6 weeks ago this Friday..<br />
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We had been to doctors a few times, a couple months before..<br />
She knew there was something wrong in her body, and she wanted to get answers..<br />
They didn&#039;t treat her right or take her seriously..she already had a strong mistrust for doctors..<br />
They took her blood, checked her liver enzymes..said it was all fine and prescribed her vitamins..<br />
She still knew something wasn&#039;t right, so she found a primary care provider who was very nice, but still not very helpful or...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-lost-my-beautiful-wife-the-love-of-my-life.3930/" class="internalLink">I Lost my beautiful wife.. the Love of my life</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Matt My Man</title>
      <pubDate>Sat, 19 Sep 2026 09:06:04 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/matt-my-man.3961/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (Rissa2305)</author>
      <dc:creator>Rissa2305</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Matthew Mitchell died August 17th. He was my boyfriend. I was leaving an 11 year marriage for him. He died suddenly suffering an asthma attack and then his heart arrested at 3am right in front of me. I still miss him. I still cry every day. I can’t believe he’s gone. I can’t believe this emptiness left behind…I’m so lonely and no one can take his place.]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Personal Essay about Sue</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 30 Aug 2026 13:10:23 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/personal-essay-about-sue.3956/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (BrianG)</author>
      <dc:creator>BrianG</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[One way that I’ve tried to cope since my late partner’s sudden death in January is through writing. I’m a freelance writer of short stories, personal essays, and journalism on the arts. I have been writing a letter to Sue and that’s currently over 12,000 words, making it the longest single piece I’ve ever written. After having an emotional breakdown in a grocery store after seeing some food items she especially liked, I came home and wrote a short story based on that painful experience. None...<br />
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      <title>Lost my mom suddenly</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 28 Aug 2026 03:03:47 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-my-mom-suddenly.3882/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (Janie c)</author>
      <dc:creator>Janie c</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I’m reaching out for help on how to cope with the sudden loss of my mom . She was not sick , and 75 years old . She is my best friend, talked daily and she was completely immersed in my life as well as my 11 year old son. She passes three weeks ago and I’m not able<br />
To cope or hardly function . All I want to do is sleep and cry. I have to be strong for my son but I feel like my heart cannot take the pain . I don’t know a life without her in it , and not having her here is the worst pain I’ve...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-my-mom-suddenly.3882/" class="internalLink">Lost my mom suddenly</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Trauma and Grief</title>
      <pubDate>Thu, 27 Aug 2026 14:20:00 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/trauma-and-grief.3951/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (BrianG)</author>
      <dc:creator>BrianG</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I lost my fiancee Sue to a sudden and totally unexpected stroke in January. I was with her when it happened. We were about to run errands when she collapsed just after getting into the passenger seat of the car. We’d been talking about normal things, like whether we should get carryout lunch from Jersey Mike’s, minutes before her shocking death. I think the trauma from witnessing her death overwhelmed me so much that I couldn’t really get to the grief at first. But now the grieving has set...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/trauma-and-grief.3951/" class="internalLink">Trauma and Grief</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>I miss my mum, and being home alone is still really difficult.</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 26 Aug 2026 18:19:49 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-miss-my-mum-and-being-home-alone-is-still-really-difficult.3954/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (funyum97)</author>
      <dc:creator>funyum97</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[My sister and I lost our mum in March very suddenly. I remember cooking a breakfast for my friends the way my mum had taught me, and getting a phonecall from my dad telling me that I needed to travel home. <br />
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My employer wasn&#039;t happy that I took bereavement leave to mourn and attend my mum&#039;s funeral, so she fired me on my first shift back. Following this, my housemate told me he was moving out so I had to try and find a new job and a new home at the same time. Thankfully I&#039;m in a secure job...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-miss-my-mum-and-being-home-alone-is-still-really-difficult.3954/" class="internalLink">I miss my mum, and being home alone is still really difficult.</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>I'm the only one left and I'm so alone.</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:09:34 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/im-the-only-one-left-and-im-so-alone.3953/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (The LastOne)</author>
      <dc:creator>The LastOne</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I lost both parents years ago, but I had my sisters and we grieved together and eventually we carried on. A couple of days ago, my sister died suddenly and unexpectedly. We had already lost our other sister a few years ago. This time I am grieving alone. I am the only one left from my original family. I have nobody to grieve with. There is nobody else. She was all I had. I am not young and my friends have moved away or passed away or both over the years. Without my sister there is nobody....<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/im-the-only-one-left-and-im-so-alone.3953/" class="internalLink">I&#039;m the only one left and I&#039;m so alone.</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>How to Continue on?</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 05 Aug 2026 12:25:50 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/how-to-continue-on.3934/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (SamanthaSun)</author>
      <dc:creator>SamanthaSun</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[A life riddled with grief loss and heartache.<br />
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Is there a limit to how much one heart can hold?<br />
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Ever since I was a little girl my life has been riddled with tragic unexpected losses. Life keeps going, yet someone we are expected to get up go to school/work, and pretend like our whole worlds hasn’t just been shattered in every single way. Loss after loss, seeing the bodies of those I love, lifeless, cold. No child, no person should ever have to see that, to experience that. The PTSD of the...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/how-to-continue-on.3934/" class="internalLink">How to Continue on?</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>I lost my mother and brother</title>
      <pubDate>Wed, 05 Aug 2026 10:36:52 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-lost-my-mother-and-brother.3926/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-lost-my-mother-and-brother.3926/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (Evelily)</author>
      <dc:creator>Evelily</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi,<br />
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Every one I wanted to come here express that I have lost my mother and brother in a short span of time. I also lost my father some years ago. I have found as time goes on this is getting increasingly difficult. It&#039;s unlike any thing I have ever experienced before. I am in deep grief and wanted to to share it with others. I understand the grief of it all and understand it well. What has been some of the go to things anyone has done to help with their grief?]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>I hate it</title>
      <pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2026 11:50:08 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-hate-it.2855/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-hate-it.2855/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (Lost!)</author>
      <dc:creator>Lost!</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I hate that you left me <br />
I hate how I miss you<br />
I hate all the stupid comments<br />
I hate being alone with this<br />
I hate you for not loving yourself enough<br />
I hate that I can&#039;t hold you<br />
I hate all the happy people <br />
I hate your clothes shoes letters and stuff left in piles<br />
I hate your dog that looks at me looking for answers<br />
I hate how I can&#039;t make it right]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>I Joined the "Dead Dads Club"</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 07 Jun 2026 21:13:43 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-joined-the-dead-dads-club.3937/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-joined-the-dead-dads-club.3937/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (lajp)</author>
      <dc:creator>lajp</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi there! <br />
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I am not sure whether this post fits here because my dad didn’t suddenly die as in day-of his accident/fall but two weeks and four days after. So it was sudden but again, I&#039;m not sure if it still counts as sudden. Anyway. <br />
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My dad fell on a Thursday (April 23), he was intubated and in the ICU for five days (intubated for about 2-3 days). By May 3rd he was on hospice. And on May 10, shortly after midnight he passed. A day after Mother&#039;s Day and a day before my birthday. I&#039;m glad...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-joined-the-dead-dads-club.3937/" class="internalLink">I Joined the &quot;Dead Dads Club&quot;</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Lost dad suddenly</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 05 Jun 2026 21:00:27 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-dad-suddenly.3933/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-dad-suddenly.3933/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (Miaaa)</author>
      <dc:creator>Miaaa</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I lost my dad end of April. My 15 year old brother with special needs lost his dad. My 25 year old brother who’s in a very tough moment in his life after graduation lost his dad. My mom is the one that hurts the most. She lost her husband, her person. She had lost both parents long ago and my dad was the one she leaned on as they raised my special needs brother. It hurts me that she’s now alone in caring for our youngest brother. I’m trying everything to get our family to live in the same...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-dad-suddenly.3933/" class="internalLink">Lost dad suddenly</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Lost My Wife 2 Weeks Ago</title>
      <pubDate>Tue, 02 Jun 2026 07:54:41 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-my-wife-2-weeks-ago.3884/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-my-wife-2-weeks-ago.3884/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (TrumpetDude)</author>
      <dc:creator>TrumpetDude</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi, I am glad I found this forum. <br />
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My wife of three days under a year and a half passed away on November 7th. She was 50 yo. She&#039;d been battling cancer, but that wasn&#039;t what killed her. She&#039;d had heart attacks in the past and suffered from congestive heart failure. In recent months her Type 2 diabetes spun out of control, as well. Leading up to her passing she&#039;d been successful mitigating the diabetes using her insulin. But it was too much too late.<br />
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On the morning of the 7th I woke up...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-my-wife-2-weeks-ago.3884/" class="internalLink">Lost My Wife 2 Weeks Ago</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>I lost my husband and the pain is crippling</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 17 May 2026 23:53:24 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-lost-my-husband-and-the-pain-is-crippling.3805/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-lost-my-husband-and-the-pain-is-crippling.3805/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (fgaud)</author>
      <dc:creator>fgaud</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I lost the love of my life over a month ago. We have 3 kids together (9yo, 5yo, 3yo). We were supposed to celebrate our 10th yr anniversary this july, we were together for a total of almost 12 yrs. I just...it&#039;s too painful. It hurts..and I miss him so dang much. I don&#039;t know if I can do this...I had to do a lot of things to deal with his estate, change all of our bills under my name. And it felt wrong...it felt like I am erasing his existence here. There are still a lot of things that I am...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-lost-my-husband-and-the-pain-is-crippling.3805/" class="internalLink">I lost my husband and the pain is crippling</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Double loss</title>
      <pubDate>Sat, 16 May 2026 15:03:19 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/double-loss.3928/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/double-loss.3928/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (Kristie66)</author>
      <dc:creator>Kristie66</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I lost my mother suddenly 8 months ago and lost my husband suddenly 2 weeks ago.  I&#039;ve lost the 2 people who would help me through these losses.  I am all alone now.]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Lost my boyfriend suddenly and unexpectedly</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 13:14:47 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-my-boyfriend-suddenly-and-unexpectedly.3925/</link>
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      <author>invalid@example.com (helen85)</author>
      <dc:creator>helen85</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Hi All<br />
I lost my boyfriend suddenly and unexpectedly on 9th January this year. Since then I have felt so lost without him. He was my best friend, my rock, my everything. Its like he was here one day and just gone the next. I have never experienced grief like it. From what started off as a normal day to the worst day of my life. I will never forget that day. I was just in work when the receptionist at my work place said that my Dad had been on the phone. I immediately thought that it was my...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-my-boyfriend-suddenly-and-unexpectedly.3925/" class="internalLink">Lost my boyfriend suddenly and unexpectedly</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Sudden loss of my Fiance</title>
      <pubDate>Sun, 03 May 2026 10:59:40 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/sudden-loss-of-my-fiance.3923/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/sudden-loss-of-my-fiance.3923/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (onlylonely86)</author>
      <dc:creator>onlylonely86</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I woke up to him (my Fiance) passed away beside me in the morning. <br />
I remember, I had playfully laughed about how quiet he was as I turned to face him in our bed. ( he always snored)  His hand was reached out to my back and he was cold and so deafening silent.  I&#039;m not sure how long I was in shock (I just stared at his face and rubbed his chest) I never saw it coming. I couldn&#039;t get a grasp on what I was dealing with. My brain couldn&#039;t register what I was seeing and not believing. I can&#039;t...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/sudden-loss-of-my-fiance.3923/" class="internalLink">Sudden loss of my Fiance</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>loss can still be "sudden" even if preceded by illness</title>
      <pubDate>Thu, 23 Apr 2026 08:36:16 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/loss-can-still-be-sudden-even-if-preceded-by-illness.879/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/loss-can-still-be-sudden-even-if-preceded-by-illness.879/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (ES70)</author>
      <dc:creator>ES70</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[Illness did not prepare me for the loss of my husband 11 days ago. Even when he was sick, I saw his smile every morning and every evening and received the kisses he blew to me whenever I came into the room.  He was always there for me emotionally and was my greatest supporter.  Now he is gone. He died suddenly over 12 hours going from having a conversation with me about every day things to being dead.  Has anyone felt this way- that illness does not &quot;train&quot; you for the actual death of your...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/loss-can-still-be-sudden-even-if-preceded-by-illness.879/" class="internalLink">loss can still be &quot;sudden&quot; even if preceded by illness</a>]]></content:encoded>
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      <title>Double loss</title>
      <pubDate>Fri, 10 Apr 2026 01:14:32 -0400</pubDate>
      <link>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/double-loss.3908/</link>
      <guid>http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/double-loss.3908/</guid>
      <author>invalid@example.com (Wild Queen)</author>
      <dc:creator>Wild Queen</dc:creator>
      <content:encoded><![CDATA[I lost my only son on November 3rd and then my Dad on December 13th 2025. I know it hasn&#039;t been long since the passing but I feel alone. I don&#039;t talk to anyone because I don&#039;t want to hear any bullshit. I keep myself locked in the room where my son slept and before I know it the day is gone. I don&#039;t go out because I don&#039;t want to anymore. Im lucky if I make dinner once a week and I have to be run out of clothes to do laundry. I feel like I can&#039;t do anything my bills aren&#039;t getting paid...<br />
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<a href="http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/double-loss.3908/" class="internalLink">Double loss</a>]]></content:encoded>
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